When it comes time for your loved one to move to a memory care community, you may be unsure of how to make the transition as easy as possible for both of you. If they are used to living at home, especially if it’s the same place they’ve lived in for years, it’s possible you could feel guilty for having to make a move to memory care. It’s also likely that you will face some resistance, no matter how much you have spoken about moving beforehand. Unless a move to memory care was planned from the start of your loved one’s memory loss diagnosis, this will often be a difficult and confusing time for both of you. Trying to find not only the right fit for your loved one but actually transitioning them to a memory care community can be painstaking if you aren’t exactly sure how to find the best community or how to ease their transition.
According to Cydney Hansen, Marketing Director, at CountryHouse, a memory care community in Granite Bay, CA, the best thing to do is plan ahead. “The moment your loved one is diagnosed with memory loss, it’s important to comfort them and plan for the future while you can still get their input,” says Cydney. “Once memory loss progresses so far, it can be harder to talk to them about making the move to a memory care community. This will make it more difficult to determine what they would like best in a community, what their preferences are and when to actually make the move. Without having a plan in place before their memory loss progresses, you may not be able to ensure they get everything they desire, leaving you feeling stressed and guilty for making the decisions for them, no matter how much it might benefit your loved one. Instead of winging it when the time comes, try your best to plan ahead so you and your loved one can be on the same page, making the choice and the transition easier.”
Easing Your Loved One’s Transition from Home to Memory Care
Many caregivers have the intention to plan ahead, but sometimes it just doesn’t happen. Whether their memory loss progressed faster than you had expected or life got in the way, it’s still possible to make the transition from their home into a memory care community easier. The Alzheimer’s Association® provides some of the following ways to better accommodate your loved one’s needs during the transition while making the move to memory care easier.
- Avoid anxiety by not announcing the move in advance. According to the article, announcing the transition too far in advance can cause your loved one anxiety and agitation. The article states that you should wait until the time of the move is closer, or perhaps even on the day of. While this may seem insensitive, it’s one of the best ways to avoid negative feelings and extreme behaviors. It can also help to make the day calmer as you begin to move.
- Try to get your loved one acquainted. As the move approaches, you can help your loved one get more comfortable by visiting the community. Visiting, according to the article, can help to get them used to the area without needing to tell them they are moving. Many memory care communities offer opportunities for future residents to get involved and engaged to make their transition easier. See if your loved one can attend a dinner party or other activities so they can begin to adapt and make friends.
- It’s ok to use fiblets sometimes. You don’t have to tell your loved one that they will be living at this community for a long amount of time, according to the article. The Alzheimer’s Association suggests using a small fib in order to make them more comfortable for the time being, such as letting them know you’ll be on vacation for a week so they are staying at this hotel. Be sure the staff knows this is what you have told your loved one so they can provide the same story until your loved one is more comfortable. While this isn’t for everyone, it can help to ensure a successful transition.
- Talk to their doctor. If you are concerned your loved one will not take the move well, consider talking to their doctor about an anxiety medication in order to make them more comfortable during the move. Then, as your loved one becomes more comfortable, slowly reduce use of the medication.
- Make their room look as much like home as possible. Talk to the staff members before your loved one moves to see what they will need to bring for their room. Consider bringing your own curtains, a non-slip rug or other pieces of furniture from home if they will allow it. This can help their space to look more familiar and can help them feel more comfortable in their new surroundings.
Transitioning your loved one to a memory care community might be difficult, but when you have a team of caring professionals on hand to help, it can be much easier. For more information on how to ease the transition to memory care, please contact CountryHouse at Granite Bay today.
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CountryHouse at Granite Bay is the very first CountryHouse location in California. With a desirable location among Folsom Lake and the Sierra foothills, and only 25 miles northeast of Sacramento, Granite Bay was the perfect area to place our upscale memory care community. While CountryHouse at Granite Bay may be brand new to California, we are certainly not new to the needs of seniors. And just like every CountryHouse around the United States, we know that personalized care can make all the difference when it comes to quality care and peace of mind.
At CountryHouse at Granite Bay, we provide personalized memory care in an environment that is beautiful and thoughtfully designed. Full of natural light, warmth and tasteful elegance, we want residents and their families to feel welcome and at home. In fact, our staff members are even hand-picked based on their natural empathy. Our staff learns each resident’s story, from their likes and dislikes,to their values and their pasts, in order to customize care and make meaningful connections that provide residents with true moments of joy and the desire to make the most of each day.
With our LifeCycles wellness programming, we encourage residents to connect, engage and enjoy every day. Our LifeCycles programming is designed to focus on the four dimensions of wellness: physical, social, spiritual and intellectual. We achieve this through a range of daily activities and routines, which can include daily bus rides, cookouts, trips and other special events. At CountryHouse at Granite Bay, we strive to make sure our residents make the most of each day, and we believe that when you treat people like family, and keep that at the heart of what you do, residents, their families and their health thrive. Contact us to learn more!
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